I listened to an album called “A
Crow Looked At Me” by Mount Eerie last year, and it's arguably one
of the most important things that I've listened to in the sense of
how formative it's been for me as a writer. In a year full of good
albums, this one stood out the most, but I hesitate grouping it with
those albums and I hesitate calling it good. It's hard to recommend
because of how untraditional it is in an album sense, since it's at
best described as reading a diary over minimalistic guitar strums
that even Phil Elverum himself describes as “barely music.” It's
also hard to recommend since it's one of the most soul-crushing
pieces of media I've ever partaken in, being an intimate and
extremely uncomfortable glimpse into the aftermath of Phil's wife
passing away from pancreatic cancer only 35 years into her life, not
even a year after their daughter was born. There's a particular
ideology about the album that reinforced a concept that I've grown to
believe in as my writing's progressed and I've been forced to
confront more of my personal demons, frequently losing to them in the
process.
Apathy has become prevalent in my
writing as the years have gone on and the reason I've stopped writing
as much is that, while talking about depression and emptiness can
seem cathartic and profound, it always felt insufficient. Like I
couldn't adequately discuss it. I think talking about those things
doesn't necessarily equate to describing them. Apathy and emptiness
are nebulous concepts that always feel hard to articulate in prose
because they're by nature an absence of something. It is not a
feeling, because there is nothing to feel. It's not the same as
“feeling bad” or “feeling indifferent” or “not caring”.
Being indifferent and disregarding towards things is different than
emptiness and apathy. It's something that can only occur when you've
been hurt irreparably, when you've lost something important about
yourself. When your feelings have no choice but to retreat, to cease
functioning in a situation or time period entirely.
For some of the most traumatic
occurrences in my life, I do not remember most of them, at least in
explicit detail. I was not there when they happened. I could not
have been there when they happened. Something about yourself is now
gone and your body just has to reconstitute itself to function again
properly without it. Trying to do that and failing is what
depression from tragedy is, where you have to acknowledge your
inability to function without something in your life anymore. The
clawing feeling of a familiar presence slowly being replaced with the
vague memory of it instead, where the emulation in your head is what
the new normal is. Memories become a weird sort of uncanny valley
with a surreal disconnect to them while you slowly adjust to what's
become reality.
Writing about personal tragedy and
depression is not necessarily meant to accurately portray that
feeling to the reader, moreso that it's meant to act as a surrogate
or a shitty emulation of the part of themselves that has gone missing
or was taken from them. Cheap melodrama and sentimentality is a
punch to the face, a sting meant to evoke immediate emotion or
sympathy. There's an audible gasp from the audience and then some
sobbing and powerful erratic emotions because we as human beings
relate to strong displays of emotion. While there's nothing
inherently wrong with this, media has grown to trivialize, even
glorify how tragedy and loss actually affects the human soul.
There's always something that's a bit less genuine about it
Real emptiness, actual depression is
cold, numb, and flaccid. It's a slog, a slow burn, an agonizing
wither that nobody wants anything to do with. Sadness, tragedy and
depression is frequently not a gunshot, it's being stuck in quicksand
and slowly dying of exposure. And when it's presented in a form of
media meant to be consumed, it should repulse the person absorbing
it. It's not meant to be enjoyed, it's not meant to be taken as an
art or a story where you feel like you're a better person for
partaking in it. It should make you feel like shit, like you didn't
learn anything from it. It should fill you with dread, it should
make you want to distance yourself from it because it confronts you
with an ugliness that you either can't adequately comprehend and cope
with, or if you're far too familiar with it, are aware of how
devastating it is. And if you have any shred of empathy, you
shouldn't want it to exist because since it does, that meant that it
was somebody's reality.
“A Crow Looked At Me” was an album
that has altered my perception of why I write about my struggles with
depression, loss, and coping. It's made me rethink what it means to
use tools of self-expression to cope with tragedy going forward. I
think in order to grow as a person, not every piece of media that
makes you a better person is supposed to leave you feeling “good”.
Music, shows, videogames, how shallow of us would it be to reduce
these things down to mere escapism, or that every sad thing that
happens in them plays on junk food sentimentality rather than actual
palpable grief or sadness, in a world where sometimes life is just
shitty or unfair.
And while that's a transformative
thing to go through, I still wish that this album didn't exist
because that means these things happened to Phil. I wish that I
could've reevaluated something like this by not having to listen to
this album. I don't want to learn anything from feeling hurt like
this from a piece of media. There is a good chance that after only
about three complete listens to this album, I will probably never
listen to it again. I think the album accomplishes what it set out
to do because much like what Phil's gone through to make this album,
I don't want it to be real either. Despite my lack of familiarity
with his other works like other Mount Eerie albums or the
Microphones, I just want Phil to be okay after something like this.
This is an album that I would not wish upon anybody to have to write.
And if all this makes it sound like
this album is something you don't want to listen to, then I don't
blame you. But it's also an album that nobody wanted to exist,
especially not Phil. You won't feel like a better person for having
listened to it, nor will you find it easy to judge based on
traditional parameters of how you think you should approach a music
album. But it will leave an impact on you, perhaps one you wouldn't
want. But that's sort of what the whole album is about, and it's the
closest I've at least gotten to empathizing with real grief and
depression from a small piece of music.